Recently it has been brought to my attention that my husband is not pleased with radical unschooling. His first solution was for me to get a full time job and for us to send the kids to school. Needless to say, this was devastating to me. But with great guidance and prayers from many, we have reached an agreement.
The agreement means that there are going to be changes around here. And my new mantra is "It's better than the alternative".
We had a meeting this week and discussed everything kid related. The changes will be as follows:
-There will be strict bed times. If Hunter is doing a show, unless it's production time, he will need to be at home and in bed by 9:00pm. (This makes good sense to me as we have recently seen just what a disaster it can be to his mental and emotional health when he stays up late several nights in a row.)
-Their Own Beds. The children will at least start out in their own beds on the nights when their dad is home from work. (This makes good sense to me also. After all, we don't see each other very often and we've been through a lot the past few years. Spending time together, alone, in our bed is an important way for us to reconnect which is ultimately in the best interest of the children.)
-We will be adding a curriculum. After much discussion, we have compromised and decided upon "Time 4 Learning" for both older children. Beyond that, everything else can be unschooled as long as they are keeping up with their online lessons. This "curriculum" is best for Hunter because it doesn't require handwriting which is next to impossible for him (he is on a waiting list for affordable occupational therapy here in our community). Also, if I'm not having to plan out this curriculum it gives me plenty of time to continue doing the things we like to do... such as taking them to playdates, on field trips, being involved with the theater, and I will be able to continue facilitating them in learning through the methods we were already enjoying. Of course, it also leaves me time and energy to work on my own personal goals such as improving my marriage, exercising, blogging, writing articles for various websites, pursuing La Leche League leadership, investigating the creation of a safe home for the gay youth in our community, starting an improv troupe, and making a film about leukemia. Phew.
-Focusing on other subjects. We will be buying a Spanish curriculum because everyone wants to learn Spanish. We will also be signing the kids up for classes like guitar, science, swim, and dance lessons.
-Scheduled learning time. The older two children will be expected to do their "school" work daily which includes practicing handwriting, Bible reading, their "Time 4 Learning" lessons.
-Earning an income. I have rallied to have my "job" be taking over large chunks of our family business. Today I started training for working at the Farmer's Market. I love the idea of being more involved with Ridiculous Chocolate. At least I'll be working for myself, heading toward a goal for our family instead of working to earn money for some other company or person. I also appreciate that I can keep my children with me while I'm working.
Please pray for us as we make these changes and as I fight to keep my children at home with me.
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