Thursday, August 25, 2011
Plank Pullin': Where I admit that my husband is right
So a few weeks ago the husband and I had it out. Big time. In a major way. We both said everything that we felt like we needed to say and then some. And we promised each other to do better. What could I possibly be doing wrong you ask? Well, aren't you sweet. But in all honesty, a lot of things according to my husband. His main complaint? Too much internet. Imagine that. I know I know... I am changing the world via Facebook and my blog. But after hearing his complaints on this subject for the past four years, I'm finally ready to do something about it.
I unfriended almost everyone on my page and deleted a few of my pages and I made my husband the admin for two of the three pages that I still have. I have also stopped looking at my feed and I'm considering deleting everyone from my friends' list and just keeping up with people via the couple of groups that I'm running or a member of on Facebook. I've all but stopped blogging. I'm STILL not where I'd like to be but I'm working on it. I really am. I wish that I could create a block for Facebook that would keep me from being able to access it until after dinner. Sad, isn't it? Most days I cannot avoid turning on my computer because we use the internet for Spanish lessons or I need to email someone or look up a phone number, etc. It's so hard to not turn on FB. But I've made a lot of head way.
Has it made a difference in my marriage? Absolutely. My husband and I are talking again. He seems less angry with me and the children. He seems less depressed and down about the constant stress in his life. From having a kid with a serious illness to having vehicle troubles, he's had plenty of reasons to feel stressed out. But I see that he has a lot of reasons to feel happy and grateful too. I think he's starting to see that as well. He has started working out again... and eating healthier... and even juicing.
Amazingly, I've figured out that his theory about my computer usage was right. I really am more tuned in to the kids when the computer is turned off. I really do notice what they are doing and I am more successful in keeping them occupied, happy, content, and even safe. The days flow better and I am less distracted. He predicted that I'd find this and he was right.
I hope that I can continue to make adjustments to my days to where I'm eventually not using Facebook at all except at night. I'd like to schedule two blogging "sessions" per week and stick to that as well. If you have suggestions on how to manage online time please let me know!
Or if you just want to vent about your own issues with dependency upon online communication, I'd love to hear that I'm not alone!
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